sons first birthday away from home ????
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I know probably sounds silly and this day would of eventually come where we didn't wake up to him here on his birthday but this was taken out of our hands as he had to move out after the knock. So think that makes it worse.
He will be 20 next week and I hate him not being here or aloud to visit partner doesn't want him at the house untill all this has been dealt with incase it gets media attention so dont look like we are supporting him.
I try to see him as often as can but hard as me and son both work full time plus I have a younger one to look after aswell. This breaks my heart my life is a mess got no one to talk to as I trust no one last couple days just been so down but trying not to show it as still have to carry on as normal as possible for my younger one.
This is hard and it's his birthday I am also dreading chrismas coming the first one with all this hanging over us and son not being here or aloud how do I navigate that what do I tell people I'm soo scared just dont know what to do anymore x
He will be 20 next week and I hate him not being here or aloud to visit partner doesn't want him at the house untill all this has been dealt with incase it gets media attention so dont look like we are supporting him.
I try to see him as often as can but hard as me and son both work full time plus I have a younger one to look after aswell. This breaks my heart my life is a mess got no one to talk to as I trust no one last couple days just been so down but trying not to show it as still have to carry on as normal as possible for my younger one.
This is hard and it's his birthday I am also dreading chrismas coming the first one with all this hanging over us and son not being here or aloud how do I navigate that what do I tell people I'm soo scared just dont know what to do anymore x
My son is alot older and is not the offender. But, my son was living at home until he was 29. He was waiting for a visa to marry his fiance in America. When the visa came the embassy made a mess of it and he only had three weeks notice to emigrate. He went one week before my birthday and a couple of months before his. I was beside myself. I could not visit him, pop in to see how he was. He is the first child to leave home as well. I realise in your situation emotions will be running higher but technology got me through. I sent him his presents through the post, and we had a video chat on his birthday, on the call he opened his present. Was it the same, no, but it did give us a little bit of normality. I just told myself that this was going to happen one day. I am writing this hoping this gives you comfort. I just realised that things in life do change, and these things become easier in time. But technology these days does help. X
That sounds so very tough. Can you meet up with him - even if not on the actual day and make a fuss of him?
Same with Xmas? Lunch somewhere, a present and lots of contact by text or however works around the actual day? Over that pandemic, we used to plan to watch the same film, and we'd WhatsApp in little intervals, eat the same food/takeaway etc.. It was a nice way to feel a bit connected.
Big hugs to you both. It's a rotten situation
Same with Xmas? Lunch somewhere, a present and lots of contact by text or however works around the actual day? Over that pandemic, we used to plan to watch the same film, and we'd WhatsApp in little intervals, eat the same food/takeaway etc.. It was a nice way to feel a bit connected.
Big hugs to you both. It's a rotten situation