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Hi All,
I haven't had my period since the knock and I am petrified to do a test as I know I will have some big decisions to make. It could be stress related, it could just be irregular after the miscarriage, I could be worrying for nothing but only his mum knows what's currently going on with him at the minute so I don't have anyone unbiased to talk to.
I don't really know what I'm looking for from this post but I just feel angry that if I am pregnant, I'm so conflicted on wanting a second child so badly but also not wanting to bring another child into this mess and the thought that I may need to abort a baby so badly wanted. Although it would have been conceived prior to the knock, the thought of SS getting back in touch and judging me or not seeing me as a trusted superviser, putting my child at risk is too much to face and do I really want that life for another child when I already have this information, it's hard enough that my child now has to be in the system. I then feel extremely angry that his actions will take away from my child having a sibling and me having a second baby that I really want. No one plans to be a single parent, this situation has really humbled me. If we are not together and living seperate will SS still be involved if I am pregnant? The case with them is currently closed.
Even if I'm not pregnant, I want to say hopefully I'm not but even that saddens me because only 2 months ago I was hoping to be pregnant. I feel angry that the choice has been taken away from me as my body clock is ticking, it's a now or never situation and I can never forgive him for that.
I'm just having a really bad day and my anxiety is through the roof. I need to get a pregnancy test and go from there but just needed to share my worries in a safe place.
What would you be considering in this situation? Any honest advice or support is appreciated.
I haven't had my period since the knock and I am petrified to do a test as I know I will have some big decisions to make. It could be stress related, it could just be irregular after the miscarriage, I could be worrying for nothing but only his mum knows what's currently going on with him at the minute so I don't have anyone unbiased to talk to.
I don't really know what I'm looking for from this post but I just feel angry that if I am pregnant, I'm so conflicted on wanting a second child so badly but also not wanting to bring another child into this mess and the thought that I may need to abort a baby so badly wanted. Although it would have been conceived prior to the knock, the thought of SS getting back in touch and judging me or not seeing me as a trusted superviser, putting my child at risk is too much to face and do I really want that life for another child when I already have this information, it's hard enough that my child now has to be in the system. I then feel extremely angry that his actions will take away from my child having a sibling and me having a second baby that I really want. No one plans to be a single parent, this situation has really humbled me. If we are not together and living seperate will SS still be involved if I am pregnant? The case with them is currently closed.
Even if I'm not pregnant, I want to say hopefully I'm not but even that saddens me because only 2 months ago I was hoping to be pregnant. I feel angry that the choice has been taken away from me as my body clock is ticking, it's a now or never situation and I can never forgive him for that.
I'm just having a really bad day and my anxiety is through the roof. I need to get a pregnancy test and go from there but just needed to share my worries in a safe place.
What would you be considering in this situation? Any honest advice or support is appreciated.
Hi,
I was 3 months pregnant at the knock and had all the thoughts you are having. I think you should do a test so you at least know what you're facing. If you are pregnant then the booking in midwife will ask if there has been any previous involvement with social services and will likely put in a referral. Social services may then decide whether you require a new assessment. I would let them know that you would like some space to think over your options as the baby was planned and conceived prior to your husband's arrest. They have 45 working days to do their initial assessment from the referral.
Sending so much love and strength to you. Hoping that you get the clarity and support that you need xxx
I was 3 months pregnant at the knock and had all the thoughts you are having. I think you should do a test so you at least know what you're facing. If you are pregnant then the booking in midwife will ask if there has been any previous involvement with social services and will likely put in a referral. Social services may then decide whether you require a new assessment. I would let them know that you would like some space to think over your options as the baby was planned and conceived prior to your husband's arrest. They have 45 working days to do their initial assessment from the referral.
Sending so much love and strength to you. Hoping that you get the clarity and support that you need xxx
Thank You, sorry you had to go through all that whilst pregnant must have been so stressful. Hope you are doing well now. I will get the test done this weekend, and go from there. xx