Needing advice on how i deal with this
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Morning all,
I havnt posted for some years now .. I hope everyone is doing OK..
My son is due off register in August next year it's been along time.
Anyway my daughter has a son who is 17 months old she decided to get rid of biological dad when she was 12 weeks pregnant. She has met someone now and obviously wants it to progress. However im putting thoughts in head I.e she said about going away on a weekend break with him and her son and I said just make sure you fully protect my grandson. She said how am I suppose to do that when im asleep. She has now decided not to go but I feel very guilty ????.. how an earth do I stop so much negativity about everyone I trust no one not even my husband since the knock and ive been with him 22 years and he hasn't done anything.
I can't expect my daughter not to have a relationship with anyone she's only 19.. I just need advice i know not all men have a mind like that however there's so many .. feeling very sick at the moment please help
Thank you
I havnt posted for some years now .. I hope everyone is doing OK..
My son is due off register in August next year it's been along time.
Anyway my daughter has a son who is 17 months old she decided to get rid of biological dad when she was 12 weeks pregnant. She has met someone now and obviously wants it to progress. However im putting thoughts in head I.e she said about going away on a weekend break with him and her son and I said just make sure you fully protect my grandson. She said how am I suppose to do that when im asleep. She has now decided not to go but I feel very guilty ????.. how an earth do I stop so much negativity about everyone I trust no one not even my husband since the knock and ive been with him 22 years and he hasn't done anything.
I can't expect my daughter not to have a relationship with anyone she's only 19.. I just need advice i know not all men have a mind like that however there's so many .. feeling very sick at the moment please help
Thank you
I think the only way is therapy and also giving their partner a chance to show they can be trusted. It's a big thing to learn to trust men again after this.
I'm still in the waiting stage of all this. And my husband was the one that's been accused, we have a 1 year old together. I'm a very forgiving person, but I've found trusting and forgiving him that bit easier because he is remorseful and has and still is doing a LOT of self improvement. If he had just sat there lumping about I don't think I'd still be with him. He is showing through his action that although he will always be a risk I see him as a low risk because of his action now (and also the reasons behind why we are in the horrific situation)
I'm still in the waiting stage of all this. And my husband was the one that's been accused, we have a 1 year old together. I'm a very forgiving person, but I've found trusting and forgiving him that bit easier because he is remorseful and has and still is doing a LOT of self improvement. If he had just sat there lumping about I don't think I'd still be with him. He is showing through his action that although he will always be a risk I see him as a low risk because of his action now (and also the reasons behind why we are in the horrific situation)
Hi,
I can completely understand your feelings, being a part of this group that we keep to ourselves can make you feel like everyone is hiding something. Your daughters response was possibly one of frustration. Could you maybe have your grandson for your daughter to spend more time around her new partner without having him around her son?
In your situation I'd likely sit your daughter down and explain that you're having trouble with trust but you want her to be able to have relationships whilst also protecting herself and her son. She can make requests via Sarah's law and Claire's law to check for any previous charges or convictions for crimes against children or violent crimes xxx
I can completely understand your feelings, being a part of this group that we keep to ourselves can make you feel like everyone is hiding something. Your daughters response was possibly one of frustration. Could you maybe have your grandson for your daughter to spend more time around her new partner without having him around her son?
In your situation I'd likely sit your daughter down and explain that you're having trouble with trust but you want her to be able to have relationships whilst also protecting herself and her son. She can make requests via Sarah's law and Claire's law to check for any previous charges or convictions for crimes against children or violent crimes xxx
Thank you for the replys .. I think she wants to be a family with new partner they are pretty serious however I have chose not to meet him yet. He has met my grandson once . I did ask if she would like me to have him for the weekend I have him alot as she works I also work but im flexible Thank God. I have done Sarah's and Claires law and he is clear however you never know. Therapy may help but I doubt it as ive done it before im on tablets however anxiety is still bad everytime door knocks I jump out of my skin :(.
I'm sorry to hear what your going through wish I could say it gets easier but it doesn't and im just a mum who's going through it gutted when I hear of you ladys going through it .
Take care and thank you x
I'm sorry to hear what your going through wish I could say it gets easier but it doesn't and im just a mum who's going through it gutted when I hear of you ladys going through it .
Take care and thank you x