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S m

Member since
September 2025

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My husband was arrested 2 and a half years ago on suspicion of online child sex offences. He admitted his guilt during the police interview whilst he was under arrest. He was let go pending further investigation which has been ongoing for over two years now. We have since had a baby. Do I need to tell the police or social services about her? What are the possible outcomes of this?! I'm so scared.

Posted Mon September 8, 2025 10:14amReport post

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1275 posts

Hi,

I think it would be wise to contact social services and make them aware of your child's situation. What is your current arrangement regarding family life? Do you supervise at all times? Are you allowing him to do personal care? Social services will want to be able to see that you are taking the risk seriously and have a safety plan in place. You can explain to them that you weren't made aware that you needed to inform anyone since he has no bail conditions and no contact from the police since he was released under investigation.

Has he done any courses or anything to work on himself and his offending? It will be important to have that documented for ss. They may ask him to move out if he lives with you, it's worth having options for that if it happens xxx

Posted Mon September 8, 2025 4:36pmReport post

Em84

Member since
May 2025

2 posts

Yes you should've notified when pregnant as they will be involved if with him. I'd be surprised if they let him live with you tell them quickly! My kids not aloud with dad at all and they teenagers while under investigation and only 2 hour visit a week . If yours under investigation you dont know whole story and keep baby safe first Might make you look bad if don't tell them. Good luck.

Posted Thu September 11, 2025 10:14amReport post

Tiredsoul

Member since
May 2024

39 posts

I'm confused how you got to this point without any involvement?



I was under 12 weeks pregnant so hadn't had any contact with midwives when my ex was took away.



when I went to my first midwife appointment they asked about any police / children's services involement past / present and I told them everything.




This will be seen as a major red flag..

Posted Sat September 13, 2025 12:40pmReport post

mum1982H

Member since
September 2022

53 posts

you really need to get advice from ss straight away. it may be that bail cinditiins would have been in place if there was a child at home. ss would at very least have done a risk assesment.

my LG dad was arrested when I was 32 weeks pregnant, he couldn't be at home, couldn't be at any appointments, the birth, none of our daughters appointments. He is allowed supervised access and I can be the supervision but even that took some time to decide.

You really need to look at the bigger picture and what risks he may pose to not only your child but your ability to keep your child safe.

I'm sure not every person arrested and suspected of these crimes would pose a risk to there own children but some will. It'll be extremely stressful but at least you'll have peace of mind

Posted Sun September 14, 2025 9:18pmReport post

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