Any partners been allowed back home?
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It has been a few weeks since the arrest and partner released on bail. He has admitted to processing indecent images that were sent amongst legal images on online groups. He is currently allowed supervised contact and I am waiting for my as risk assessment to hopefully become the supervisor.
The police have told us that it will likely take several months, probably longer than what his bail is currently set for, to complete their investigation. His bail states no unsupervised contact unless approved by ss.
My question is, if and when I choose, when is it likely that ss will let him back home overnight?
I have read many horror stories on here with ss not agreeing this at all even years post charges. Is there anyone that has managed this and what did you do?
The police have told us that it will likely take several months, probably longer than what his bail is currently set for, to complete their investigation. His bail states no unsupervised contact unless approved by ss.
My question is, if and when I choose, when is it likely that ss will let him back home overnight?
I have read many horror stories on here with ss not agreeing this at all even years post charges. Is there anyone that has managed this and what did you do?
Hi completely in the same boat as yourself. We had knock a month ago and SS told OH he had to leave that night and only allowed 1 hr a day in home when kids there. We were told 12 weeks until they carry out a risk assessment and they can put a safety plan in place. However reading on here I am not too sure if this will happen that he will be allowed back after this risk assessment. Each area seems so different. It has and is affecting my children badly not having OH at home. I know he has done wrong and no condoning it in any way however SS are supposed to work in best interests for the children. We have a meeting with them this week to see where thing stand no idea what to expect, and i am so scared I will use wrong phrases to say what I want to say and they turn this against us. I will keep you updated how I get on. Pm me if you would like. Hoping and praying OH can come home soon. xx
I'm not sure myself when they'll be allowed back home, but the risk assessment with SS should be quiet quick.
I was never told I'd need a risk assessment to be able to supervise my husband. Maybe it's because my daughter was under a year old at the time of the knock and I made it very clear that it's her normal to see her dad every day. If he disappeared that would have a knock on affect to her mental health because that's not her normal (he only sees her at weekends now due to work, and it took 3 months for her to stop pointing at the door and crying for dada in the mornings, we now look at pictures of dada and say see you soon bye bye and get up). If you focus on what's best for your children and not you they should see it as fine. It's exhausting! Not going to lie. I've supervised for 8 months and having no break at all isn't fun even when he does everything minus cloth and nappy changes and I just follow with my cup of tea because she likes to take him for a walk to the garden and back like 20 times.
I was never told I'd need a risk assessment to be able to supervise my husband. Maybe it's because my daughter was under a year old at the time of the knock and I made it very clear that it's her normal to see her dad every day. If he disappeared that would have a knock on affect to her mental health because that's not her normal (he only sees her at weekends now due to work, and it took 3 months for her to stop pointing at the door and crying for dada in the mornings, we now look at pictures of dada and say see you soon bye bye and get up). If you focus on what's best for your children and not you they should see it as fine. It's exhausting! Not going to lie. I've supervised for 8 months and having no break at all isn't fun even when he does everything minus cloth and nappy changes and I just follow with my cup of tea because she likes to take him for a walk to the garden and back like 20 times.
Hi
i I was pregnant with my first when my husband was arrested. His was online comms with a decoy.
he never had to leave the home. I did have to do a lot of work with SS even attending a safeguarding course. I would recommend looking at doing your safeguarding qualifications- have a look online as you should be able to find free or very cheap courses.
I also created a family safety plan which outlined what we would and wouldn't do in the house which started with me outlining how he wouldn't be left alone with the baby. It was a really difficult 18 months but eventually when that was dropped and he has no restrictions at all relating to our child.
she will be 4 very soon. And so I've been on this journey a long time and I have to be honest and say it's not easy and even now we have some challenges - such as suddenly the police have said they have to tell my child's nursery and the nursery have now decided he can't do collections - which makes life tricky for me! So it's definitely a journey and kind of feels never ending.
regarding how long the process takes - you are probably looking at around 1-2 years post arrest for sentencing ect.
all this to say. It is possible to get them home. But you have to put in an enormous amount of work. And depending on the age of your children you may need to have some conversations and set rules with them about what they do and don't do with their dad.
im so sorry you are in this club.
i I was pregnant with my first when my husband was arrested. His was online comms with a decoy.
he never had to leave the home. I did have to do a lot of work with SS even attending a safeguarding course. I would recommend looking at doing your safeguarding qualifications- have a look online as you should be able to find free or very cheap courses.
I also created a family safety plan which outlined what we would and wouldn't do in the house which started with me outlining how he wouldn't be left alone with the baby. It was a really difficult 18 months but eventually when that was dropped and he has no restrictions at all relating to our child.
she will be 4 very soon. And so I've been on this journey a long time and I have to be honest and say it's not easy and even now we have some challenges - such as suddenly the police have said they have to tell my child's nursery and the nursery have now decided he can't do collections - which makes life tricky for me! So it's definitely a journey and kind of feels never ending.
regarding how long the process takes - you are probably looking at around 1-2 years post arrest for sentencing ect.
all this to say. It is possible to get them home. But you have to put in an enormous amount of work. And depending on the age of your children you may need to have some conversations and set rules with them about what they do and don't do with their dad.
im so sorry you are in this club.