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I'm not sure If anyone here has followed my story, but just incase you didn't heres a quick round up- my husband was arrested in February 2023 for possession of iioc, was sentenced in June 2024. Social services probation and everyone all agreed for him to come with just no unsupervised contact. 11 months ago he went to probation and had a disagreement with his probation officer at the time. 4 days later we had a knock at the door from his offender manager saying that his probation officer had requested an urgent home visit (we now have this in writing) .. at the time I had 3 children who all had a sickness bug at the time so my house was upside down. During which time they routinely looked at my partners phone and see he had watched porn (on a legal 18+ site) anyway because of this and the house they phoned social services and that's where our hell began. They said because of the porn it was clear he still had uncontrollable urges amd made him leave home. Because of the house they said that I was an unfit mither. I was pregnant at rhe time, we had one of our own& I have 2 older children from a previous relationship. All 4 children were put on a child protection plan. My social worker at the time was absolutely horrendous and made some god awful comments and things just seemed to be getting worse and worse. Then after Christmas, my midwife at the time emailed her a pretty strong worded email about how she was making me feel. 2 weeks later I got a call saying that the social worker had been 'assigned different cases' and we never see her again. I got a new social worker in February in March I had my baby. During this whole time I still wasn't allowed to supervise because I hadn't had a parenting assessment. In June I finally completed the parenting assessment that was supposed to have been done in December. Although I passed my assessment I still wasn't allowed to supervise until my social worker had had a meeting with her manager and the chair. It took 8 weeks for that meeting to take place! So we're 11 months on from them making him leave I got a phone call last week to say that my partner was allowed home! Overnight stays when and as we please. A few restrictions in place regarding Internet & unsupervised access but honestly I couldn't be more relieved. During this last 11 months I have complet3d the inform group, a safeguarding course with the nspcc & researched for hours upon hours. My partner has done alot of work on himself, and completed the inform plus group as well as work with his new probation officer. It's been absolute hell but we're hopefully finally coming to the end. At the next conference meeting for the child protection plan it is going to be reccomended that all of the children will come off of child protection plan! ... We still have a way to go and my partner still has alot of work to rebuild trust but we're finally getting there. To anyone who is loosing hope, stay strong. Please don't loose hope. It does get better!



My nan used to tell me it'll all be OK in the end, if it's not on then it's not the end. And honestly, I couldn't agree more.



Wishing you all the happiness you deserve!