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Unexpectedly on a Sunday morning, he gets arrested for indecently touching a child. We didn't know who,untill after he got bailed that night, on running out to meet him as the dog heard the gate open, I'm told he's glad it's all going to come out. 44 yrs we have shared, 3 generations of kids, and to find he has been sitting in his office since COVID not only working, but watching illicit Abhorrent videos of poor little ones being hurt. And then creating AI images of the same, I then find out it was a family member who he touched, whilst thinking she was asleep.
I don't know how to deal with this, it's just not him, he's the gentlest, loving man I have ever known. Is he Evil. He has tried to explain that from watching Porn, to that going younger,and younger females to children. I ask Why, when he knows it's so wrong, Could he think of actually doing that, No, was the reply. 6 weeks since the knock,out on Bail, and to find out it could take years to go to court, it's hurting me so bad, none of our kids can be here.. I have days when I can cope, but others are awful. I have had panic attacks, my Angina is going haywire, getting the shakes. Yet he seems so Calm, and that really makes me Angry. Like an Idiot I love him, he has told me he knows he doesn't Love me like he used to, and that broke my heart. I am in pieces, I'm struggling through each and every 24 hours, my Doctor and welfare officer, and the woman police officers in the unit have been so supportive and helpful. But it's not getting me the answer To WHY, WHY would he not see the consequences of his actions, WHY could he not see they are real children,not animated. He has applied for help. And I am hoping to God he gets it. After October our lives will be changed for ever. He knows it, I know it, it's just to hard to except it.
I don't know how to deal with this, it's just not him, he's the gentlest, loving man I have ever known. Is he Evil. He has tried to explain that from watching Porn, to that going younger,and younger females to children. I ask Why, when he knows it's so wrong, Could he think of actually doing that, No, was the reply. 6 weeks since the knock,out on Bail, and to find out it could take years to go to court, it's hurting me so bad, none of our kids can be here.. I have days when I can cope, but others are awful. I have had panic attacks, my Angina is going haywire, getting the shakes. Yet he seems so Calm, and that really makes me Angry. Like an Idiot I love him, he has told me he knows he doesn't Love me like he used to, and that broke my heart. I am in pieces, I'm struggling through each and every 24 hours, my Doctor and welfare officer, and the woman police officers in the unit have been so supportive and helpful. But it's not getting me the answer To WHY, WHY would he not see the consequences of his actions, WHY could he not see they are real children,not animated. He has applied for help. And I am hoping to God he gets it. After October our lives will be changed for ever. He knows it, I know it, it's just to hard to except it.
Silvernan - I have just read your harrowing post and could almost feel your distress. I'm not sure what to say because nothing will make you feel any better just now. It takes a long time to even feel anywhere near normal but you must look after yourself and utilise any support you can - LFF, GP , this forum and personal contacts/ friends/ family who you trust . These support networks however small will be vital to you. Just concentrate on getting through each day - one at a time and then week by week. The whole thing is just too big to deal with right now.
You will find nothing but support on here, you are not alone x
You will find nothing but support on here, you are not alone x
Winnie, thank you for your kind words, since posting that I seem to have a bigger problem with him.
I will post about it .
I will post about it .
I'm so sorry Silvernan, it must be devastating for you xx
I'm in the same boat the knock. The innital arrest was my ex touching a 12 year old child. Then after they did the forensics on his phone and laptop found iioc cat a, n and c. Then I had to undergo assessments with social services. At the end I got to read my ex's police report and found out there was two other child abuse claims. One went back to 2018 with a school report about concerns about sexual abuse with another child.
Nothing was really done about it and then a third friend child claimed more unappropriate touching.
Also my ex searches on porn pretty much were based on school girls (although it was 18+) but they seem it as a pattern. My ex has to return to the police station next month for his bail conditions and I think he will be charged. It is just seems shock after shock. Though I feel at the end as all information has been given.
However I rang the police about some thoughts I had and they want to do a statement. I didn't really see any sexual abuse however there were things that made me feel uncomfortable that I do question now I've reflected back .
If the police feel my information is enough for going to court then I said I would as at the end of the day I want to do what is right as I myself have been sexually abused as a child.
Nothing was really done about it and then a third friend child claimed more unappropriate touching.
Also my ex searches on porn pretty much were based on school girls (although it was 18+) but they seem it as a pattern. My ex has to return to the police station next month for his bail conditions and I think he will be charged. It is just seems shock after shock. Though I feel at the end as all information has been given.
However I rang the police about some thoughts I had and they want to do a statement. I didn't really see any sexual abuse however there were things that made me feel uncomfortable that I do question now I've reflected back .
If the police feel my information is enough for going to court then I said I would as at the end of the day I want to do what is right as I myself have been sexually abused as a child.