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HopingonaMiracle

Member since
February 2025

64 posts

As my previous posts have explained we are currently at PLO stage due to my husband being deemed high risk through lies about a comment he made which wasn't true....



The PLO is to get funding for a psychological assessment of my husband to ensure his level of risk. We have a little boy aged 1 and he only gets 2 8 hour sessions a day with him at weekends and 5 hours in the week with a supervisor that currently isn't allowed to be me.

since my last post my husband has been to court regarding the "breach" he made of his SHPO (he asked to destroy a phone and they are saying he didn't)



this is how going to trial end of June next year!! Which is mortifying, and as well as the PLO I lost my dad 10 days ago so we are broken.



and just to absolutely top it all, I went to Greece and took anti period meds (I haven't had one in about 4 months), and when I was back I had no withdrawal bleeding, spent over a week toying with idea of a pregnancy test but couldn't bare the idea of being pregnant so thought no....until today.



Ive been slapped with a big fat positive, no idea how far along or anything ???????? currently at PLO for our current son and despite having no concerns for my care of Charlie my son how is this going to go down when I tell them I'm pregnant by accident :,( I'm working so hard on my capacity to protect and now I'm worried this is going to destroy our lives and the stress of dealing with the trial ahead while pregnant and potentially ending up alone with 2 under 2....



has anyone else had similar and fell pregnant by accident?? How did it go?? If I'm very early then I've got a desicion to make but if I'm quite far along I can honestly say I don't know what to do....



all I can do is hope his assessment goes well so we can work on being a family of 4?? I'd protect 2 children just as much as I would 1 I'd give my life.



i don't want them threatening me or speaking bad of me.



im very very very scared and don't know what to do.

Posted Sun September 14, 2025 5:21pm
Edited Sun September 14, 2025 5:22pmReport post

HopingonaMiracle

Member since
February 2025

64 posts

Just wondered if anyone had a positive experience and how to go about it, can't lose my baby.

Posted Mon September 15, 2025 4:19pmReport post

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1276 posts

I think the main issue that you'll have is that they may think you haven't been following the safety plan of contact being supervised by someone else. When booking in your pregnancy with either the GP or midwife you could ask for a dating scan due to your periods being irregular. This will give you a better idea of when baby was conceived, you might have texts between you to say that you've dropped your son off etc.

Like you said you will be able to protect 2 children in the same way that you are able to protect your son. If they deem you a protective factor and able to supervise then you can ask about next steps to family reunification but it will be harder with the breach and probation against him xxx

Posted Mon September 15, 2025 5:28pmReport post

HopingonaMiracle

Member since
February 2025

64 posts

They are aware we had nights with our son looked after, so I would think they'll understand that is how this has come to happen, far from planned though, hoping they don't twist things too much, going private scan Wednesday to see where things are at, I'm stunned beyond words x

Posted Mon September 15, 2025 9:31pmReport post

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