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misskitty2023

Member since
September 2024

15 posts

Over a year since the knock, no further forward but case has apparently been marked as priority to be looked at.



I had a bust up with a family member yesterday who accused me of lying and covering up for my OH and I just feel like I'm drowning. Family member told me they have been getting information about the investigation and they have also been telling other family members about everything. They said im going to lose everyone if I keep going this way but they have made me feel so isolated by telling other people about everything.



I feel so alone and like im reliving everything all over again. My mental health is so low, I feel like I want to just disappear and I can't see an end to this. It feels like this is just how my life is now and it's horrible and I'm stuck in the middle of an awful situation

Posted Tue September 16, 2025 10:08amReport post

Anxious_Parent

Member since
September 2025

3 posts

Hi, I just wanted to reply to let you know that you're not alone.

I completely identify with the feeling of just wanting to disappear, but please try to take just take one day at a time and to keep going. It's an awful situation, but I found the helpline to be so supportive when I'm at my lowest.

My situation took 18 months before I heard anything else at all. I know everyone's experience is different, but it could be a while longer.

As for the family member, if it's someone you know to normally be reasonable, you could try telling them how much their comments hurt, or perhaps distance yourself for a while.

I'm sorry I can't really be of any help, I'm also feeling lost and scared, but reading that others have been through the same thing gives me hope we can survive this.

Wishing you the best, we can get through this.

Posted Tue September 16, 2025 10:28amReport post

Daisychain7655

Member since
April 2025

96 posts

Im so sorry you're going through this. Lots of people are happy to give their opinion on what they would or wouldnt do yet until they are in this situation they have absolutely no idea. Infact between may to July I had absolutely no idea what to do and was changing my mind often, and I was living it!

I hope you have someone supportive to reach out to x

Posted Tue September 16, 2025 10:29amReport post

misskitty2023

Member since
September 2024

15 posts

Thank you both. It's just been one of those days, lots of emotions and hurt feelings all coming back to the surface. It's hard when you thought you had the help and support from people you thought you could trust and they turn their back on you.



I hope I can get through this, I hope we all can. X

Posted Tue September 16, 2025 2:40pmReport post

mum1982H

Member since
September 2022

53 posts

anniversaries are so difficult. I wish your family could come here and read some of our stories and realise in some way we are also victims.

no advice but sending hugs. I hope this is over for you soon

Posted Tue September 16, 2025 5:11pmReport post

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