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arrest Feb 24 age 19
offence Jan 23 age 18
second interview May 25
Police turn up on the doorstep on Friday....tell my child to get ready they are going to court, they're now 21.
the police tell them they've missed court date however the court letter had been sent to the wrong address....
My child phones me in a state of shock, fear upset and tears....I'm at work and can't leave, they know this.
5 hours sat in a cell waiting for court only for it to be adjourned, they had no legal representation as the solicitors knew nothing about it too.
any thoughts?
my child is at breaking point, they are 21. As a tiny family we are just broken, myself and my child are being ripped apart by this torment.
no room for children to make mistakes, or rectify their errors.
My child has previously said they would like to be involved in creating some kind of education around this subject as they were completely naive about it.
any thoughts appreciated.
arrest Feb 24 age 19
offence Jan 23 age 18
second interview May 25
Police turn up on the doorstep on Friday....tell my child to get ready they are going to court, they're now 21.
the police tell them they've missed court date however the court letter had been sent to the wrong address....
My child phones me in a state of shock, fear upset and tears....I'm at work and can't leave, they know this.
5 hours sat in a cell waiting for court only for it to be adjourned, they had no legal representation as the solicitors knew nothing about it too.
any thoughts?
my child is at breaking point, they are 21. As a tiny family we are just broken, myself and my child are being ripped apart by this torment.
no room for children to make mistakes, or rectify their errors.
My child has previously said they would like to be involved in creating some kind of education around this subject as they were completely naive about it.
any thoughts appreciated.
This all sounds unbelievably traumatic for everyone. I don't understand how such an important document can just be posted, surely its worth a call/text/email to confirm these important details and as you mentioned he has a solicitor so why not send information to them too. Where my person is living his post is always disappearing so he would have no chance. And the thought of them just turning up at the door is terrifying. Sending you hugs as I've no idea what I would have done in this situation, its like they are out to make everything as difficult as possible when a simple call would have prevented all of this.
I am so sorry about this - we have just had a similar situation with our son although he is a lot older than yours. His solicitor had to really push to get a date for his plea hearing and his copy of the charges have still to arrive in the post. I find it atrocious that something as sensitive as this can just be sent out like that and your situation shows exactly why. Plus the constant carelessness of the admin people, whoever that is, with no repurcussions for them but big problems for us at the receiving end, is atrocious. Nobody gives a damn or gets any kind of reprimand for doing things so carelessly and I'm not surprised you are so angry.I would be too. I agree with the idea of writing a statement just like you have written on here. We have the right to expect fair and reasonable treatment for our young people from the legal system.
Momma bear
I'm so sorry this happened - your poor son having to go through that.
No real advice, but perhaps putting in writing what happened - for the judge/ probation to make sure they're all very aware that this was all handled badly.
I feel angry and sad for you both. Our poor children are being completely scapegoated. Its not just, there's no compassion. Its hard to have any faith left in the system when you see it at it's worst.
Thinking of you both x
I'm so sorry this happened - your poor son having to go through that.
No real advice, but perhaps putting in writing what happened - for the judge/ probation to make sure they're all very aware that this was all handled badly.
I feel angry and sad for you both. Our poor children are being completely scapegoated. Its not just, there's no compassion. Its hard to have any faith left in the system when you see it at it's worst.
Thinking of you both x
I'm so angry reading this, was his solicitor not in touch as they should of known too. (Our solictor knew before us) It's so worrying that paperwork like this goes missing. How are you all doing?
Absolutely disgusting inhumane treatment. Please consider writing a statement directly to the judge describing the trauma you have all suffered and continue to do so. I think my statement really counted in Court when the judge considered my Son's sentence. He quoted directly from it in Court which I wasn't expecting . I think he could feel our pain . I hope you are through this terrrible journey soon x