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djones0829

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March 2024

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Posted Tue April 16, 2024 9:04amReport post

Hi everyone! I'm new here and taking a shot to find some support with my struggles right now. Me and my daughter will be going to the UK this June. My husband has been on the register and he's still has 6 years left on it. His prevention order will end this May, but we know that once we get there, we have to register our daughter at the police station so the police officer can coordinate with social services. We've waited for my visa to be approved for as long as I can remember, but when we finally got it, it was the start of our nightmare rather than good news. My husband has fallen into a deep depression to the point that we don't even talk anymore. One of his biggest fears is my visa getting revoked because we might have to live separately while doing the assessments. He think that social services might use it against us to have it the easy way for them to get rid of me by sending me back to my country, which will lead to them closing the case. We don't have have any support coming from his family because they don't like me. I don't know anyone in the UK except my husband so I don't have anywhere else to go if social services will ask me to move out. I don't have access to public funds so I can't go to shelters. No one from his family are willing to take me and our daughter in temporarily while doing the assessments. I feel bad that my husband is struggling mentally because I got my visa approved. I'm so tempted calling it a day with him so he can move on and won't have to worry about social services anymore. I feel like it's the only way for me to help him. I'm emotionally and mentally drained as well so I can't be a good support to him. Is it even possible to beat social services and get them to let me and husband live in the same house with our daughter? I would appreciate any kind of advice. God Bless us all!

Edited Thu April 18, 2024 9:02am

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

952 posts

Posted Tue April 16, 2024 2:54pmReport post

Hi,

If you can navigate to the discussion and support section and repost you're likely to receive more responses.
It is possible that you will be allowed to live together but the fact that you don't have much/any support network may not be favourable in the assessments. What is your husbands current risk level from probation and/or his offender manager?

It may be wise to consider approaching social services before you enter the UK with your daughter. Or potentially book an independent risk assessment for your husband with lff xx

djones0829

Member since
March 2024

5 posts

Posted Thu April 18, 2024 3:32amReport post

Hi! Thank you for replying to my post. I don't know where to see that discussion so I can repost this.

I believe my husband is on medium risk which we are baffled about because he did everything they asked for like going to this program. He even got that monitoring software on his phone which will also be taken out when his prevention order ends.

My husband called social services 2 weeks ago to tell them that me and our daughter are coming but they can't start the assessments unless I'm in the country already. They were able to speak to his sopo officer though but they have to close the case since they said starting the case now is too far from the date of my arrival in the UK.

We're both scared as well because we've been reading so much about social services that they might take pur daughter away from us. I haven't broke the law or anything so I'm a little naive on that part. But my husband said social services is powerful and they can break families when they want to. I haven't even been there but I feel so isolated already.