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So sorry Tia - we are just over 2 years and waiting - and that feels like a lifetime :(

At the moment the OIC has our son's solicitor and his children's SW (who is as fed up as we are because of how it's affecting the children) on her case asking for updates and after exaggerating/lying she is now avoiding their attempts to speak to her.

My person waited for four years and two months for charges.

Sentencing is coming up very soon and it's been 4years and 7 months since the knock now.

Were they on bail conditions all that time?

My person wasn't. They were on bail for 15 months with conditions. The realeased under investigation for a further 3 years then charges.

That's just awful over 4 years in limbo

Hi my OH has been waiting nearly 2 years, was bailed for 12 month and then since he's been on RUI we still haven't heard anything... /:

I always think surly to god they have a duty of care if they find someone is definitely guilty of a crime they would do something sooner. Baffles me,



hope you don't have to wait long (:

we've been waiting almost 5 years before a new OIC replied to our solicitor and finally offered a voluntary interview (last week) so we are now just waiting what the reviewing officer will make from this case.. whether there are enough evidence and if it's in the public interest

4 years for me and we only just got to the end and even now going through crap with SS !! It never ends, always something that comes up

it will be 2 years in July (on RUI after 6 months)

I fear my OH thinks it will be so long, that it will all go away

His passport has now expired and I tempted to say don't renewal as you'll never be able to travel anyway.

We keep going on UK holidays as I fear booking a holiday and then the court process starting.

And then what feels really unfair is that there will still likely be 10 years on the SOR even though we have waited years & years.......

actually now I guess the waiting is good as my daughter will be 18 in less that an year and my son is almost 6 now, so that should make life a little easier when social services come back into our lives.

Other than travel my biggest fear is now my job, I have taken a bigger role which means my OH does more childcare and if they take that away again it is going to hurt my chances with my career if I can not go into the office . The end result if that I either have to lie to them or worse still, tell them the truth.

I don't think my OH gives it a second thought but it is always in the back of my mind, and we tell me I need to stop thinking about what "might" happen which is equally frustrating :(

Did your oh move back home when it went RUI without SS getting involved? I've really had enough and only 5 months

We waited 2 years for phone analysis and another year for my autistic son to be charged. 1st Magistrate hearing 4 weeks later and then Crown Court Now waiting again for Psychiatric report and Psychologist report to determine if fit to plead . The waiting is hell, I've nearly had a breakdown over it all . The Law is so black and white and the CPS/Police bow down to the Vigilantes . 3 years of utter hell !

Anyone else got an Autistic Son who can relate to this - I'm sure I am not the only one! How many other vulnerable people who haven't gone out looking for this have been caught in a system like this ?

Yes I feel very lucky that after RUI, SS let him come home..... I know that is not the case for everyone. I worry what happens after charging as if we have another SW, then the end result could be different and we could be back fighting again for something we were allowed when nothing have changed other than him being charged for what everyone already knew he had done!

It's crazy it's hurting my children that their dad can't be home and he's lived with the eldest for 19 years he would never ever hurt them. We think he actually reported himself as he went on a server found cat A reported it and left.

I hadn't seen this Tia, but just wanted to reply to say we are similar timescales to you. Knock Feb 22, second interview March 24, still haven't had charges and it's now end of April 25. The incompetence astounds me.
I am so so sorry all you ladies are going through this. It properly sucks. Big hugs to you all Xx

Shocking isn't it what police force is that with? We had the knock in 23, second interview in 24, sent to cps in 25 and still nothing.... /:

Stitch, it was (later deleted for anonymity). They are flipping useless......

Same up north /: