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D1R5

Member since
June 2025

1 post

My ex partner was arrested last year, his plea hearing was last week and his sentencing is at the end of the month.

We have a 1 year old together. He gets supervised contact this now. I would like this to continue but what rights do I have?

Social work are doing background checks before sentencing. Just wondered would I get interviewed by social work and have a say in what I would like for my baby in terms of supervision or whats likely to happen?

Posted Mon June 2, 2025 9:44amReport post

LittleRobin3

Member since
April 2024

846 posts

Hi, yes, absolutely your views should be taken into account. SS's usual starting point is no contact with the offender whatsoever. I guess it depends on many things such as the offences, the risk etc. Wishing you all the best. X

Posted Mon June 2, 2025 10:09amReport post

Sad&Scared

Member since
January 2024

181 posts

My impression is more that SS will allow contact if you wish it, are willing to supervise and are viewed as a protective parent who will 100% prioritise the safety of your child over your ex. If you look back over the forum there's lots of good advice on the latter. Do you have other people suitable and willing who you trust to supervise? I know SS approves grandparents etc if they seem them suitable.

Posted Tue June 3, 2025 9:22amReport post

Inthemoment

Member since
February 2023

401 posts

I disagree that SS starting point is no contact. Especially for a birth parent, the assumption in law is contact whenever this can be safe

I never had any issues at all continuing contact between my son and his father, and this was supported by the 4 different SWs we had and all managers. I made clear that my assumption from the off was that my husband was guilty and although the risk to my son seemed low, because it was still a risk I would be following a 100% supervised contact plan accordingly, and in line with bail conditions.

After sentencing this was gradually lifted and we live together now as a normal family with zero restrictions other than normal SOR requirements

There are some more challenging stories on the forum and some people have had a terrible experience but if yours so far has been accommodating if contact then there's no reason this should stop unless there is a clear direct risk from the father to their child

Posted Wed June 11, 2025 1:03pmReport post

Bluebell88

Member since
June 2025

5 posts

In the Moment - I'm relieved to hear your positive outcome and am hoping for similar here.

Posted Thu June 19, 2025 3:47pmReport post

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