Has anyone been forced to read a section 16?
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From what I understand, a section 16 is basicly like a graphic report of some of the images found, I know the amount and the catagories and thats all I wanted to know but when I had my assessment I was basicly told that I was being foolish and I wouldn't have a clear understanding which has really annoyed me.
Even my ex's probation officer and offending managing officer said that I shouldn't have to read anything that I'm not comfortable with yet I've been bullied into it and I'm made to feel like I don't have a choice.
I've said on numerous occasions that for my own mental health I'd rather not read it but then I'm not being protective.
Has anyone else HAD to read it or is my area just particlarly cruel?
Even my ex's probation officer and offending managing officer said that I shouldn't have to read anything that I'm not comfortable with yet I've been bullied into it and I'm made to feel like I don't have a choice.
I've said on numerous occasions that for my own mental health I'd rather not read it but then I'm not being protective.
Has anyone else HAD to read it or is my area just particlarly cruel?
This isn't quite an answer to your question, but I would absolutely want to read it (I hope I get to know everything- we're still at the waiting on CPS stage). And I do understand why SS want you to as well. I'm not against being a supportive presence in the offender's life, right up to staying with them potentially, but there's a lot to be said for really looking the offence in the eye. I find I easily get bogged down in how awful it all is for me, but nothing we go through compares with the trauma of the kids in the images. So I guess I wouldn't necessarily shut it down. But that may well be a minority view.
They shouldn't be able to force you to do anything you're not comfortable with at all. I asked my husband if they were 15 plus, 10 to 15 or under 10. But SS have bombarded me every 1 and a half weeks over the phone and seen me every 3 weeks asking me some horrific interrogation questions. So I'm now at a point when I'm like actually you know what I'm done with them doing the what if game. It's known information so I want to know so they leave me alone. Wasn't a fun conversation, I will not lie! I still have chest pains now and I still feel sad. But I still have this overwhelming erg to continue down the same path I chose back in December of forgive him, move on, move forward.
That's so out of order. You absolutely have the right to protect your mental health. Being called "foolish" for setting a boundary is unacceptable and unprofessional. Your well-being comes first.
I agree that it's completely out of order, even the police have voiced that this is unfair but like I said I don't have much of a choice.
Throughout my whole experience SS couldn't give a damn about me or my mental wellbeing and if I express that I'm low (would NEVER admit that I've felt borderline suicidal because of them) then it goes completely against me rather than looking at ways to support me.
With my mental health I've made a ton of progress using support groups & therapy that I've had to find myself cause surprise surprise they won't and I just feel like reading such horrific things will set me back and more than likely mentally scar me for life.
I get it may "better help my understanding" but I'm just sick and tired of my views and wants never being listened to & basicly told to shut up and do as they say or else.
Throughout my whole experience SS couldn't give a damn about me or my mental wellbeing and if I express that I'm low (would NEVER admit that I've felt borderline suicidal because of them) then it goes completely against me rather than looking at ways to support me.
With my mental health I've made a ton of progress using support groups & therapy that I've had to find myself cause surprise surprise they won't and I just feel like reading such horrific things will set me back and more than likely mentally scar me for life.
I get it may "better help my understanding" but I'm just sick and tired of my views and wants never being listened to & basicly told to shut up and do as they say or else.