Finally, after 3 years 8 months, it’s over
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I have been a bit silent on here for a few months now, as I was finding the forum so triggering, but wanted to come back here and update everyone, particularly as a few ladies on here over the years have been so helpful to me.
I first came to the forum in Feb 2022 after my OH got the knock. My husband was arrested for a small number of images and also one charge of attempted communication, but then it took the police two years to view the devices, and then in March 24 conduct the second interview. Charges then came June this year, over 3 years later, with Magistrates August, and then finally Crown court today.
It has literally been the worst time of our lives but we have strengthened as a family and learned a lot along the way.
The judge was in a properly grumpy mood but after many arguments with the barristers, my OH ended up with 2 years suspended for 2 years, 10 year SOR and 5 year SHPO.
Media has been my biggest worry (along with custodial) as it would properly destroy me, our kids and possibly our business, if everyone found out.... but it looks as if they weren't there. Not sure if they were online yet, but even if they were, our address wasn't mentioned and nor was his old name (he changed his name before charges). We shall see what happens in the next few days but it's looking positive so far.
The judge said it was VERY nearly custodial and it was the length of time we have been waiting that helped sway it, along with the state of the prison system, and his mitigation because my OH had worked so hard to mend his dreadful mental health after a very long and eventful military career, culminating in PTSD, depression and then an increasingly bad porn addiction.
Thinking of you all going through this sh!t show, huge hugs to you all and thanks again to those who helped me over the years. Feel free to message if you have any questions,'Partic with name change etc
I first came to the forum in Feb 2022 after my OH got the knock. My husband was arrested for a small number of images and also one charge of attempted communication, but then it took the police two years to view the devices, and then in March 24 conduct the second interview. Charges then came June this year, over 3 years later, with Magistrates August, and then finally Crown court today.
It has literally been the worst time of our lives but we have strengthened as a family and learned a lot along the way.
The judge was in a properly grumpy mood but after many arguments with the barristers, my OH ended up with 2 years suspended for 2 years, 10 year SOR and 5 year SHPO.
Media has been my biggest worry (along with custodial) as it would properly destroy me, our kids and possibly our business, if everyone found out.... but it looks as if they weren't there. Not sure if they were online yet, but even if they were, our address wasn't mentioned and nor was his old name (he changed his name before charges). We shall see what happens in the next few days but it's looking positive so far.
The judge said it was VERY nearly custodial and it was the length of time we have been waiting that helped sway it, along with the state of the prison system, and his mitigation because my OH had worked so hard to mend his dreadful mental health after a very long and eventful military career, culminating in PTSD, depression and then an increasingly bad porn addiction.
Thinking of you all going through this sh!t show, huge hugs to you all and thanks again to those who helped me over the years. Feel free to message if you have any questions,'Partic with name change etc
Everything crossed for you that you can start to put this behind you x