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haven't posted since May did police interview and solicitor said it was go to youth offending team but
police finally came to our door tonight to issue my child aged 13 with a court summons they said they hoped it wouldn't get to this but it has sadly, any advice ? Will call the solicitor in the morning dealing with the case just hoping for sine advice before I can't sleep and overthink it all night
thank you
haven't posted since May did police interview and solicitor said it was go to youth offending team but
police finally came to our door tonight to issue my child aged 13 with a court summons they said they hoped it wouldn't get to this but it has sadly, any advice ? Will call the solicitor in the morning dealing with the case just hoping for sine advice before I can't sleep and overthink it all night
thank you
Hi I'm so sorry to hear that. Did it go to CPS for this decision then? And have the youth offending team been in touch?
We have just had interview with our son and now waiting again.
Thinking of you xx
We have just had interview with our son and now waiting again.
Thinking of you xx
youth offending team didn't get in touch it was weird , the dectectives said they agree it shouldn't have come to This
what a mess
nor sure what happens from here
my stomach is in knots
what a mess
nor sure what happens from here
my stomach is in knots
That's terrible treatment. Thirteen, for goodness sake. Where is justice, understanding, compassion? So cruel.
May it soon be over with. My thoughts are with you and your son.
May it soon be over with. My thoughts are with you and your son.
I can't understand it why it's going this far
I know he did wrong with these what's app al images and di does he
just opens it all up again
yhry said the courts may not prosecute yet di what's going on ?
I know he did wrong with these what's app al images and di does he
just opens it all up again
yhry said the courts may not prosecute yet di what's going on ?
How is your son coping?
Is your solicitor a specialist? If not, you might be able to get some free advice from the youth justice law centre.
I think it's ultimately the police who decide if it goes to CPS or not - and they should liaise with the youth justice team. Can your solicitor check this has all happened correctly? They should have completed a gravity matrix (I'm not lawyer but that's my understanding). Could you ask for a copy to understand how the decision was made?
The youth justice team should get in touch with you ahead of court, but it can be quite last minute. You can contact them yourself, that might also be worth doing as they can do things like show you both around a few days before so it's less scary, and they can fully explain the process
Sadly the police, particularly the officers that deliver the bad news, will tell you anything to seem like they're on your side. They're not.
I'm sorry this has happened. Thinking of you and your son.
Is your solicitor a specialist? If not, you might be able to get some free advice from the youth justice law centre.
I think it's ultimately the police who decide if it goes to CPS or not - and they should liaise with the youth justice team. Can your solicitor check this has all happened correctly? They should have completed a gravity matrix (I'm not lawyer but that's my understanding). Could you ask for a copy to understand how the decision was made?
The youth justice team should get in touch with you ahead of court, but it can be quite last minute. You can contact them yourself, that might also be worth doing as they can do things like show you both around a few days before so it's less scary, and they can fully explain the process
Sadly the police, particularly the officers that deliver the bad news, will tell you anything to seem like they're on your side. They're not.
I'm sorry this has happened. Thinking of you and your son.
Thank you
my son has complex needs and i feel this will break him he's already had a burn out after the devices got taken
I will find the matrix if I can and get my solicitor to check how it's got this far
im just dreading it getting out to family and friends so trying to contain just to us at the minute
they know devices got taken and when we had police interview letter said youth offending team will be in touch
thanks for your support and replies all of you
my son has complex needs and i feel this will break him he's already had a burn out after the devices got taken
I will find the matrix if I can and get my solicitor to check how it's got this far
im just dreading it getting out to family and friends so trying to contain just to us at the minute
they know devices got taken and when we had police interview letter said youth offending team will be in touch
thanks for your support and replies all of you
I wonder if it's been with CPS since May then waiting for a decision whether to charge or not. It's all very confusing. Hope you're all okay and get some answers from your solicitor xx
Please keep us posted. This case is particularly harrowing 'just' due to son's age, but with complex needs too, it really is completely out of order. If you can, make many phone calls today, get answers and understanding, and get support for both of you. I am outraged. Grrrrr.
Hello Heartisbreaking
I am so sorry that you and your son find yourself in this situation. I agree with what Starr has said - this decision will have been made because of the gravity matrix score.
This link explains how the score is worked out for children may be of use for your to have a look at https://www.npcc.police.uk/SysSiteAssets/media/downloads/publications/publications-log/criminal-justice/2023/child-gravity-matrix-v2.2---september-2023.pdf
To receive the summons must have been a terrible shock. Are you and your son receiving any professional support? If not, it may be something you can consider exploring.
I am thinking of you and your son x
I am so sorry that you and your son find yourself in this situation. I agree with what Starr has said - this decision will have been made because of the gravity matrix score.
This link explains how the score is worked out for children may be of use for your to have a look at https://www.npcc.police.uk/SysSiteAssets/media/downloads/publications/publications-log/criminal-justice/2023/child-gravity-matrix-v2.2---september-2023.pdf
To receive the summons must have been a terrible shock. Are you and your son receiving any professional support? If not, it may be something you can consider exploring.
I am thinking of you and your son x
Thank you all for your reply's and support
will have a look at the matrix need migrating factors it mentions mental health needs so I'm really gutted they haven't taken his needs into consideration or do they not know about them
solicitor called and waiting for a call back
yes they did wrong not condoning it at all but to take it this far I'm flummoxed haven't eaten for two days since finding out feel sick every time I do
No professional support not sure where to look ?
will have a look at the matrix need migrating factors it mentions mental health needs so I'm really gutted they haven't taken his needs into consideration or do they not know about them
solicitor called and waiting for a call back
yes they did wrong not condoning it at all but to take it this far I'm flummoxed haven't eaten for two days since finding out feel sick every time I do
No professional support not sure where to look ?
Hi Heartisbreaking
If you want to look at possible support for you and your son you could try your GP, the stop it now helpline and the StopSO charity.
The stop it now helpline would also be able to give you information on the young person inform course they run that you son could consider doing.
I hope this helps in someway.
Take care x
If you want to look at possible support for you and your son you could try your GP, the stop it now helpline and the StopSO charity.
The stop it now helpline would also be able to give you information on the young person inform course they run that you son could consider doing.
I hope this helps in someway.
Take care x
Thanks Alison
How are you and your son doing? I've been thinking of you both.
Hi starr
ee are learning to live the next three weeks whilst we can.
my son isn't sleeping and now his complex mental health is suffering again
I'm worrried this will break him
still waiting to hear from solicitors as he said the case isn't loaded into the system yet
I just want to them to be aware of his needs and diagnoses and what an impact it's having on him mentally
ee are learning to live the next three weeks whilst we can.
my son isn't sleeping and now his complex mental health is suffering again
I'm worrried this will break him
still waiting to hear from solicitors as he said the case isn't loaded into the system yet
I just want to them to be aware of his needs and diagnoses and what an impact it's having on him mentally
I really feel for you reading this...I think we are on a similar time frame to you with second interview and court summons (first court summons went to the wrong address). I'm dreading the day this week we have to go.
im a single parent and can't afford a specialist solicitor but I've read up on a few, Mary monson was one I thought looked good although they aren't local to us they would hav e been my choice.
good luck and hope the case is thrown out....
the police are great at being there to watch this crime unfold and pounce. They should be investing in some way into software to prevent these images ever been shared- it might be a big ask but it's one of my asks, that alongside better education in schools how this crime and those associated have primarily come from a disgusting act but how it can impact your life, your family and mental health.
im a single parent and can't afford a specialist solicitor but I've read up on a few, Mary monson was one I thought looked good although they aren't local to us they would hav e been my choice.
good luck and hope the case is thrown out....
the police are great at being there to watch this crime unfold and pounce. They should be investing in some way into software to prevent these images ever been shared- it might be a big ask but it's one of my asks, that alongside better education in schools how this crime and those associated have primarily come from a disgusting act but how it can impact your life, your family and mental health.
Good luck momma bear
We've just used the legal aid solicitors but contact had been minimal tbh
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We've just used the legal aid solicitors but contact had been minimal tbh
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